The game... ~storm~

This new life of mine. This re-inventing myself is so far the most exciting experiment I have ever come across.
"The Game" Do you ever wonder what it really means? Why do men I meet, tend to tell me on the first couple of "talkings" and "getting to know you" stage, never fails to mention.. "I do not like to play games..."
As the nice girl we believe this, however who ever believes this often never admits. I have been the victim, and act as if I never believed but deep down I believed.
An example..
I believed that when he told me "I don't like to play games or waste time playing one.."
He could be that "right guy" He could just be...
I believed because I am not a very cautious girl, I pretended not to believe, because I want to be a smart girl and show that your ass is not playing me!

What is wrong with this picture? I feel that if others, were to read this.. and even if I was to read this.. I would say... This is girl is stupid!
But if it were to happen to us... we as "nice girls" will feel somewhat or exactly the same way.

I hide every sign of emotions and put up the bitch mode to where I do not care! But in reality, I am not fooling the guy but only myself.
Now, I have finally come to realize that I am the easiest target of his game.

The Game: (in a man's world) it is to make you believe that there is no trick up his sleeve. When a man tells you he does not want to play any games... he just started one!
And guess what? You're in it for a ride!

Men are from Mars and we are from Venus. They speak a different language. There is a book that says that when the Martians discovered the Venusians, they quickly fell in love and did everything they could to get to them, when they finally got there the venusians welcomed them with open arms.. everything went great! They understood and learned their differences.
Then they decided to fly to Earth. In the beginning everything was wonderful and beautiful. But the effects of Earth's atmosphere took hold, and one morning everyone woke up with a peculiar kind of amnesia-selective amnesia!
In one morning everything they had learned about their differences was erased from their memory. And since that day men and women have been in conflict.

My translation... Men will forever be attracted to venusians... they will do everything they can to get her! Everything! And women will always welcome them with open arms. The question is... how many martians are trying to get me? How many Venusians attract one man?

There are so many beautiful fishes in the sea, and guys are like sharks, they are out to get them all!

"I am now a bitch and will no longer play your games!" (the old)
"I am now a bitch and will play your game with you!" (the new)

OUT with the OLD and IN with the NEW

On my intro post I talk about falling so quickly and doing so much for one.
I come across so many sharks everyday, going to work, jogging, going out to clubs, or even at walmart! The worst place they hang out with is probably the clubs or bars, but regardless.. they are everywhere! Including the CYBERWORLD!

Anyway, when I first meet a guy, they typically do everything they are supposed to.. then when I give in, they suddenly change.. they suddenly don't answer the phone, or calls you back when it is convenient for them... I get so frustrated and mad, find reasons to why? where? and when? Its time consuming! and unnecessary energy.. but I still do it!...
My new actions?? I will get back to you when it is convenient for me! Its hard to get to this.. specially if you have always been the nice girl. But as a Bitch I have learnt to communicate in their language. Not only did i learn it but also adapted to it. Yes I act just like a guy, and feel just like one. And I don't really care! Even if I was really only tweezing my eyebrows, and he calls me... "i will call you back when im free!" This is my world, and you are not the center of it.. I am!

Ever wonder why is it that guys that you are not attracted to or you dont waste your time with are always there.. always chasing.. calling and never leaves you the fuck alone! And on the other hand... the guy you want.. is always busy, and your main communication is texting... most of their phone call conversation is short and wants to meet up... and if you were to just call them in the evening, just to talk, they either keep it short or they text you. Its like they are hiding something all the time!
Well more than likely they are!

A guy likes the thrill of the chase... because their ego as a "man" is very important to them! If you give them what you want too quickly they get bored. It makes them go crazy when they are finding it difficult to catch the biggest fish... and when they finally do they are proud to be a man!

I hate to say this but the only way to win this man is to let him be a man!
It doesn't mean give him everything.... give a little and then pull back.

I will talk about it more later on other posts... i hope that this has inspired many more of my fellow Venusians.

(please feel free to comment on your input or feedback, also if you yourself is going through or also joining to change from being a "good girl" to a "bitch")

Peacefully signing off.
~Storm

Intro by Storm

Hello,
My name is Storm, (of course it not my real name) but I chose it for this diary because it represents the reflections of the difficulty situations in my life.

Let me give our definition of a "bitch":

"A bitch is not a woman who speaks in a harsh tone of voice. It is not a woman who is abrasive or rude. She is polite but clear. She communicated directly with a man, in much the same way men communicate with another. In this way it is easier for a man to deal with her than a woman who is too emotional, because these types confuses him. The bitch knows what she likes and has an easier time expressing it directly. As a result she usually gets what she wants."

(excerpts from one of our favorite book)

I had to redefine this word because we do not want any readers misunderstanding when we use the word "bitch". Now that's out of the way, we can move along.

I am a "nice girl" =) A very nice girl! I often talk to other nice girls about relationship situations and how it makes me feel, how sad it makes me feel, how lost and confuse we can be. Is it that hard to be in a relationship that will just be all smiles and giggles and that butterfly in your stomach feeling?
WAKE UP! and smell the coffee!
Me and my fellow "nice girls" have decided to start this diary, and pretty much just express ourselves.

So again my name is Storm, and my life is filled with Challenges, rough times, or turbulence in life or in relationships, rage, anger, frustration.. you name it! But it will also pass me by and I grow and find ways to shelter so I will not get hit hard.

I find myself falling so quickly, thinking that its all fairy tales. Hopefully the way we talk about our situations in this diary can describe us individually and each one of us is unique. Kinda like the different characters in "Sex in the city" each one has different personalities.
So anyway, I often meet a lot of people, and when i get attracted to someone, I have no clue why but I automatically think that he is going to be my knight and shining armor, and that I will be his "only one"
I also tend to give & to please because it makes me believe that I have what it takes.
Only now do I learn that all these come from insecurities of a "nice girl"
I get really upset if I don't get my way, and want to talk about it and resolve it, I say I do not like drama's but by doing so.. I'm really pulling it towards me.
You have got to know when to let go.
Boredom leads me to act this way. Its like an activity! And that is a confession!
I have finally realized, it is entertaining to me! I am a reality "drama queen" hahaha
I laugh now but it really isn't that funny because when it hits me back it hits me hard and it hurts, I am unhappy and envy those who have perfect lives (or it may seem)
And in reality I need to find happiness from within.

In 2009 I have decided to re-invent myself.
2008 is the worst year for everybody! Believe me its not just you! If you look around.. it even hit the economy! The worst year in modern newspaper history, the worst year of unemployment, natural disasters... and in astrology and planets.
So don't sweat it! 2009 is the new beginning.

That pretty much ends my introduction.. =)

~Storm